In any situation where parents share custody, the potential for conflict is often high. It can often be difficult for parents who have separated or divorced to agree on what is best for their children. Many times, pre-existing differences between the parents can become magnified as they argue about discipline, religion, activities, sports, medical care, and schedules. However, the parents must still communicate in order to successfully co-parent their children and manage their shared custody arrangement. In these cases, a parenting coordinator can help to smooth the rough edges in communication between parents and help make sure that the children are happy and healthy.
In Florida, a parenting coordinator may be an attorney, but he or she does not represent either parent. Instead, the coordinator works as an impartial third party to help reduce conflict over parenting decisions. The coordinator’s ultimate goal is helping the parents to work together in the best interest of their children. He or she monitors communication between the parents, and advises both parties on how to improve the way that they communicate with each other. The coordinator may offer temporary solutions to parenting issues in emergency situations, oversee compliance with written agreements and court orders, and help parents interact in a more effective way.
Numerous studies have shown that conflict between parents can be extremely detrimental to children. It can lead to a wide range of emotional and behavioral problems in children, including:
These issues can have a serious impact on the children’s lives, and can last into adulthood. The effects of high conflict parenting on children demonstrates the need for a well-trained neutral third party to help parents communicate better, resolve their issues, and work together in the best interests of their children.
In Florida, parenting coordination is governed by law. The goal of a parent coordinator is “to provide a child-focused alternative dispute resolution process.” In other words, parenting coordination aims to protect and sustain safe and healthy parent-child relationships by reducing conflict between the parents.